In this series, we’ve talked about the definition of wholeness, the provision for wholeness, and the biblical principles for wholeness. However, as living out of wholeness is something to be learned, this final section will focus on 7 practices for living whole.
Preach the Gospel to Yourself Daily
Martin Luther once said that we should preach the gospel to ourselves every day because we forget it every day. This is so true! If we want to daily experience a sound mind, joy, peace, and assurance of God’s love, the best way we can do this is by daily grounding ourselves in the gospel. Such reminding can take many forms, but foremost is the use of Scripture. Some of my favorite go-to passages for gospel reminding are: Romans 5, Galatians 2:15-20, Ephesians 1:3-14, Colossians 2:6-15, Titus 2:11-14, and Titus 3:4-7. These are but a few of many, so as you read and study, continue to add to your own go-to passages!
Another great way to remind ourselves of the gospel is through music. There are many fantastic songs that emphasize the power and beauty of the gospel! These range from centuries old hymns to modern tunes. Some of my current favorites are: In Christ Alone, Come Behold the Wondrous Mystery, The Power of the Cross, How Deep the Father’s Love for Us, and Living Hope. Of course, I don’t know if anything can top 2 of my favorite hymns: And Can it Be and When I Survey the Wondrous Cross. Likewise, I challenge you to find songs you love that proclaim the great gospel!
Meditate on the Truth of Scripture
Not only must we preach the gospel to ourselves, but we must be in the Word regularly. There is no better way to know the character of God and the promises of God than by being in his Word! One of my favorite things about our church is its commitment to memorizing Scripture. As a child, I learned many verses in Sunday School and AWANA, but I hadn’t really taken time as an adult to commit verses to memory. I’m so thankful this has changed! Memorizing God’s Word is powerful and worth the time and energy!
I encourage you to pick one verse a month to memorize. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, feeling uncertain of God’s love, or struggling to love others, there’s a verse (or many!) for you to draw from. As a counselor, I talk to my clients about identifying and shifting inaccurate thoughts to accurate thoughts. And nothing is more accurate than the Word of God! As we mediate on the truth of Scripture, we will experience greater joy, peace, and assurance of God’s love. We will have sound minds governed by the Word.
Living in truth
This practice is actually two-fold: 1) living obediently to the Word and 2) living in good theology.
As we discussed above, there is a great need for us to preach the gospel to ourselves and to meditate continually on the Word. However, to abide in the Word is to also live it out. This means doing what it says. God has given us His standard for how we are to live. Without a doubt, this is difficult… which is exactly the point! We can’t live it out on our own. Only through the Holy Spirit living in us can we live obediently to the Word. Yet, the way to life and peace is through this very obedience. Difficult? Yes. But the result? We will be blessed with the peace and joy of God. If you need any further convincing, just check out the following verses: Psalm 1:1-3, Psalm 5:12, and Luke 11:28.
This brings us to the second point—living in good theology. Essentially, this means we apply the truths of Scripture to ourselves. For instance, if you are in Christ, and you believe that God loves His children, then you can’t pretend that somehow His love skips over you. To hold that view is to believe there is an inconsistency or an unreliability in God. And we know that is absolutely not the case! Rather, we must accept the truth of who we are in Christ: that we are chosen, forgiven, redeemed, loved, adopted, and heirs. Shunning these truths keeps us in brokenness. Redirecting our hearts and minds to these truths fills us with the assurance of God’s love and gives us a sound mind. So please, by all means, re-direct as often as necessary!
Prayer
Prayer is a primary way we commune with God, so of course we can’t neglect this practice! 1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray without ceasing. This means we can never pray too much! While I encourage you to find a consistent time in your day for quiet and lengthier prayer, I also encourage you to think about ways to build prayer into the midst of your day. For example, take a moment to pray when your head is still on the pillow- both at night and in the morning. Pray in the shower. Pray while doing household tasks such as dishes or folding laundry, or in the silence of the car as you’re running errands. The more we intentionally seek God in prayer, the more we will know Him. And the more we know Him, the more we will be rooted in His love.
In prayer, we present our requests to God and give Him praise and thanksgiving. But let me encourage you to also pray in a few specific ways, using four verses that pertain to wholeness as we’ve been discussing.
“May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of God and to the steadfastness of Christ.” (2 Thessalonians 3:5). This is a beautiful prayer! Humbly ask God to direct your heart to His love and to the love of Christ.
“For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.” (Romans 8:6). The NIV translates “set the mind” as governed. Either way, pray for your mind to be set upon (or governed) by the Holy Spirit.
“But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial, and sincere.” (James 3:17). Oh, that we would seek God’s wisdom rather than rely on our own! Pray for God to grant you wisdom and right thinking that comes only from above.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23). Pray that you might grow in sanctification; that the Spirit will produce much fruit in your life.
Connect and Receive
One of the worst things about trauma and difficult life experiences is the isolation we feel in it. Part of our healing then comes through connection. We’ve explored already the ways in which we connect with God (through prayer and His Word), but in this brief section, I want to focus on our connection with one another. Why? Because wholeness doesn’t happen in isolation!
One of the greatest gifts God has given His children is the Church- the body of Christ. Not only has God designed us for relationships, but He has given us a built-in family. Fellow believers in Christ are our brothers and sisters! As such, we are to encourage one another and bear one another’s burdens (1 Thessalonians 5:11, Galatians 6:2). Now. Usually, we’re better about the doing of this verse than the receiving. But friends, the receiving is critical! Let’s look at 2 reasons why:
- Dr. John Townsend once said, “We’re hurt by relationships, and we’re healed by relationships.” I think there is great truth in this statement, especially as followers of Christ. When we allow our brothers and sisters in– to encourage us and to bear our burdens—this brings healing to a part of our hearts that desperately needs it. God uses the godly love of others to mend the brokenness incurred by those who have hurt us.
- In a weird and beautiful way, we help our brothers and sisters obediently live out the Word of God by allowing them to minister to us. After all, the call to uplift one another isn’t a suggestion—it’s a command! So, if we block the blessings others try to bestow upon us, we’re keeping them from the full joy of giving and of obedience! Additionally, as the body of Christ, we are the way in which Christ’s love flows to one another. To reject love from a brother or sister is to reject the love of Christ. As awkward and uncomfortable as it may feel, let the people who love you love you!
Tell What He Has Done for You
Undoubtedly, trauma and the difficulties of life are part of our story. But we don’t have to minimize or ignore their effects. Rather, we can fully acknowledge the depths of hurt we have experienced. We can look at the pit of ugliness we’ve endured. But we also need to recognize that this is not the end of our story! How do I know this? Because our awesome God specializes in creating beauty from ashes- and He wants us to tell the full story!
When Jesus healed the demoniac in Mark 5, the man strongly desired to stay with him. (Who could blame him?!) But Jesus did not permit this. Rather, he instructed him to “go home to your friends and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.” (Mark 5:19). In the same way, we are to tell others what Christ has done for us- how he has forgiven us and made us new; how he is healing our wounds and binding our broken hearts. Like the demoniac (and others Jesus healed), we are to celebrate and bear witness! When we share the story of God’s redeeming work in our lives, not only does our joy increase, but more importantly, others are pointed to the glory of Christ.
Be Patient
The last practice on this list is perhaps the most challenging one. Patience… Oh, how we struggle with this! One of the hardest parts of learning/growing/changing is the slow process of it all. We just think: if only I could speed this up… if only I could just fast forward to the finish! But just like anything else, learning to live whole doesn’t happen all at once. It’s a learning process that’s ushered in through the Spirit, the Word, and the body of Christ. The beauty lies not only in the “final product” but in the becoming of it.
So, be patient with yourself, knowing that learning something new requires consistency and persistence. It takes time for new skills- new ways of being- to feel normal, natural. If you’re feeling awkward, clumsy, and as if you’re not “getting it just right” – keep going! Our God meets all of our needs in Christ Jesus and He will give us the grace needed to learn to live in wholeness.
Living Whole: Conclusion
In 1 Corinthians 15:10, the Apostle Paul exclaimed, “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me.” By the pure grace of God, He has saved us. He has called us His own and redeemed us through the blood of His Son, Jesus Christ. It is because of Him that we are who we are.
And who are we? If we are in Christ, then we’re the ones to whom the good news has been preached; the ones with bound hearts; and the liberated captives. We’re the ones who’ve been given beauty for ashes and gladness instead of mourning. We are those with opened eyes and ears and hearts made fully alive.
It’s my prayer that as we continue to plumb the depths of the gospel, we will know and embrace this true identity—that we will leave far behind the thought of ourselves as broken and damaged.
I pray that we press on toward the call of abundant life and wholeness in Christ. That we continue to fix our minds on the truth of the Gospel and on the author and perfector of our faith. For as we do so, we will grow in assurance of our Heavenly Father’s love, grace, and kindness. We’ll trade our anxiety for peace and our sorrow for joy. And by the Spirit we’ll be of sound mind. Through the power of the gospel, we’ll leave our brokenness behind and embrace the wholeness that is found only in Christ.
