Godly Speech
Today, I want to spend some time focusing on what the Bible says our speech should look like as Christ followers. While it’s important to understand what we’re not supposed to do (gossip!) it’s equally important to know what we are supposed to do! So grab your Bibles and let’s check out what God’s Word says 🙂
One of my favorite verses about speech is Proverbs 16:24, which says, “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” By definition, gracious words are courteous, kind, and pleasant. But even more than that, as followers of Christ, our words are to be gracious in that we seek the good in others and look for ways to build others up. Statements such as, “I really appreciate you,” or, “You have such a talent for x, I’m glad I get to witness you do your thing,” take but a few seconds to say. Yet, it’s these statements that add sweetness to the souls of others.
But take a look at the last part of the verse- not only do these words refresh the soul, but they are actually good for our physical bodies as well! For instance, studies now show that receiving encouraging words from others boosts the production of dopamine in the brain. This boost increases our motivation and renews our focus (www.kwiklearning.com). How cool is that?! We truly can never underestimate the life giving power of our words!
Similarly, Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” This verse echoes the truths of Proverbs 16:24 and reminds us once again, that our words are to be spoken for the benefit of others.
If we’re honest, we might read these verses and think, Man, speaking like that is so hard…and not as fun! I promise, I understand that reaction! But if we begin to see our words as ministry, speaking gracious words becomes a joy. Of course, it won’t be easy! But what a privilege it is to be used by God to minister to others. Personally, I am so thankful for the people who have spoken encouraging words to me at various times in my life. For example, an encouraging word from a classmate in college (who honestly wasn’t even my favorite person) has stayed with me for over 20 years! I still think about his words and am encouraged by them, even now. Similarly, an encouraging note from a youth leader has been in my Bible since 1998! Those words mean so much to me, even after all this time.
The truth is, we never know how God will use our words in someone’s life. People all around us- our classmates, friends, family, teammates, co-workers, and even strangers- are often dealing with problems that we have no idea about. A kind and gracious word may just go further than we could ever imagine. A word of encouragement often has ripple effects that we will never know about! But even when we can’t see the edifying effects of our words, we are still called to be obedient stewards of them. Our Father in Heaven doesn’t miss a thing- whether in this age or the next, we can be sure He will reward our faithfulness.
One more thought: Godly speech also includes speaking truth in love. There will be times when we will need to have hard conversations with others. Whether that’s confronting a brother or sister in Christ about their sin, or expressing our thoughts and feelings to others, God’s word instructs us to do this boldly and in love (Ephesians 3:15). In his first letter to the Corinthians, the apostle Paul communicated some hard truths regarding both their behavior and division within the church. In chapters 3 and 4 he communicated very clearly (and boldly!) for the purpose of the church’s edification. Yet, his tone of love and concern prevailed. “I am not writing this to shame you, but to warn you, as my dear children” (1 Corinthians 4:14). As we communicate truth to others, may it be our goal to speak for the sake of their good and edification.
Reflection:
What might be the effects in your life- and in others’ lives- if you used gracious words more often?
What prevents you from using gracious words? How might the verses above help you overcome those barriers?
Have you ever thought of your words as ministry? How might this mindset change the way you speak?
Action:
Who are 1-2 people in your everyday life you could be intentional to build up?
Make a plan! When in your day could you do this? Choose a method of communication- verbal, written, ect. Write your plan here!
Prayer:
Pray that God would help you battle your barriers to speaking gracious words. Ask Him to give you boldness and to help you remember the commands of Scripture concerning our speech. Ask Him to help you speak the truth in love.
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